Welcome to my neighborhood.........
So, a few months ago my kids were behind the house in the field playing and they came running in and told me there was a boy out there lighting weeds on fire. I ran out and saw a boy about 11 years old walking towards me. I asked him what he was doing and he of course lied and said "nuttin" and kept walking. Jordan told me that he kept lighting weeds on fire and then putting it out and would move onto a new group. So of course I lectured my kids about being around that and praised them for telling me. So we found his mom, who came running out yelling "get back here, do you want to go back to jail again?" She was screaming at him as he kept walking away. I guess he was missing for the day after that.
Well, this boy is also the school bully. Today Jordan came in in tears and told me that this boy and his little brother, who has both ears pierced, pulled him and his two friends aside while walking home and threw them into bushes and were trying to kick them. Jordan defended himself by grabbing the kids legs and tripping him and then they all ran home.
I went over to their home, 4 doors down, and the mom answered and said, "I know I know, I'm sorry, I told them to walk on the other side of the street" then she starts screaming at them to come down, she scared me.......One kid came down and denied it all blaming his brother but Jordan caught him in the lie saying, "No, dude you're the one that threw me in the bush." I wished their mom wasn't home so I could give them a piece of my mind! So, I'm interested in how you all feel about teaching your "boys" to stand up for themselves? I kind of just want him to fight back. Although I know this kid is trouble and obviously has been in Juvie so, stay away is all I advised. I guess were done with walking home........but, is that fair?
4 comments:
UHG!!! I HATE BULLIES! That is not fair to Jordan that he can't walk home now. I think he is right for standing up for himself. But he shouldn't be fighting either. I think he needs to let the boy know where he stands and that he won't tolerate him. How about the buddy system? Is there someone Jordan can walk with? I mean another boy? Or a few of them? As long as there are a group of them they usually tend to stay away and you always feel like you can stand up to someone better in a bigger group. I'm sorry Jordan has to deal with this. I wish you guys were my neighbors out here. Any places out here for you to move into?
They always walk home together. Jordan was with 2 other boys when that happened. Jasons teaching him how to throw a punch. We've always taught him the 3 strikes you're out rule. (Still house hunting!)
That is a tough one. I agree that violence isn't the answer but I wouldn't want my kid to just sit there and get the crap beat out of him. I would try to teach defense but always teach that it is not used to start something but only to defend. I also would be picking them up everyday too. No matter how inconvenient I would try to avoid it happening again. Also, you could talk to the school principal about what is going on. Good luck!
Stuff like this REALLY ticks me off! I'm so glad you found a new house away from the bully boy!!
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